“A boy is not free to find a partner of his own as long as he must be the partner to his mother.”
With the changing of state laws across the nation, more and more same sex partners are getting married. On June 26, 2013, the Supreme Court struck down the Defense of Marriage Act, which had limited federal benefits to same-sex couples. However, until new statutes are enacted (and upheld), the immediate effects will be limited. For now, the following restrictions are still in place.
Social Security survivor benefits are not available. In traditional marriages, spouses can take Social Security based on spousal benefits and also receive survivor benefits. Therefore, widows or widowers can count on a continued stream of income in their financial planning. LGBT couples do not currently have this option; each much qualify based on their own work history. So, LGBT couples should have more assets set aside for retirement to make up for the lack of survivor benefits.
Inheritance rules may exclude the LGBT widow/widower. If beneficiaries are not specifically spelled out, the inheritors may be biological family rather than the widow/widower. The best way to prevent this is to specifically name the spouse as a beneficiary and to have a clearly written will.
Domestic partner benefits, such as health insurance, are usually taxable to the employee. This means that the insurance your partner receives may be treated as taxable income. The couple should evaluate whether having separate coverage is less expensive than receiving the imputed income from the employer.
Because LGBT couples did not get the same legal status as traditional marriage couples, they need to be mindful of the differences so that they do not find unfortunate surprises later. To this end, it is important to create a legal trail of wishes and desires, through the use of wills, powers of attorney, advance medical directives, joint tenancy with rights of survivorship (JTWROS) accounts, and trusts. Their goal should be to plan appropriately to account for the reduced benefits (e.g. Social Security, partner employer benefits taxation) and to avoid probate. Otherwise, they may find out that what they thought was a recognized marriage was only a legal and financial fiction.
Once the law is settled on the subject of LGBT marriage, the rules may reflect an equality with opposite sex marriages, nullifying all of the above. Until then, though, I’d still advise LGBT couples to take these precautions. I’d rather have too many precautions in place than too few. Remember, even though DOMA was struck down, it may yet take a while for the scales of marriage equality to balance; government bureaucracy does not turn in a day.